Erotic Alchemy: Sex Magic for the Modern World
The secret language of your orgasmic body
“Sex magic - what is it, and how do I actually do it?”
I get asked this all the time. And fair enough.
I used to wonder the same thing.
When I first started reading about Tantra in my teens, I came across the concept of sex magic - and no joke, I thought it was some witchy thing a group of hippy women did under the full moon. Or something secretive and strange.
So I totally understand the scepticism.
Then I started practicing it.
And wow - it literally changed my life.
It opened me up to the wild possibility that sex isn’t just a physical act or a way to connect with another - it’s also a portal into the most powerful manifesting energy we have access to.
Here’s the thing - sex magic isn’t about being theatrical or mystical for the sake of it. It’s not about lighting a hundred candles or chanting mantras you don’t understand. And it certainly isn't some ultra-spiritual practice, either.
It’s actually really simple.
It’s about intention. It’s about presence.
It’s about weaving desire into the fabric of your pleasure.
When practiced with awareness, your pleasure becomes a prayer.
You don’t touch yourself just to feel good - you touch yourself to feel clear.
To manifest what you deeply desire.
To anchor into your longing. To call something in.
To remember that you are the source.
And that you get to choose.
You don’t need crystals, feathers, or full moons (unless that lights you up).
You need presence. Desire. Intention. And a willingness to feel.
Your sexual energy is the most potent life force you hold.
It creates humans. It births ideas. It moves emotion.
And when we pair that energy with clarity of focus - magic happens.
So, How Does It Actually Work?
Think of sexual energy and orgasm are a portal.
In those peak moments, your thinking mind softens and your body opens wide.
You surrender. Energy moves freely. Your heart expands.
It’s in those very moments that you can plant a seed -
a vision, a felt sense of what you’re calling in.
Your whole being becomes a vessel for that intention.
And your pleasure? It’s an amplifier.
The more you feel, the more open, alive, and magnetic you become.
Sex magic simply channels that energy toward something meaningful -
your desire, your creation, your prayer.
Ready to learn how to begin? Here’s a simple, powerful way to start practicing sex magic in your own life.
A Solo Ritual to Begin Your Own Sex Magic Practice
Here’s a simple ritual to begin your own sex magic practice - just you, your body, and your intention:
1. Choose your intention
Make it clear, specific, and emotionally charged.
Not just “more money,” but “I call in financial abundance that supports my creativity.”
Not just “a partner,” but “I open to a deep, devotional relationship that meets me fully.”
2. Create a sacred space
Light a candle. Put your phone away. Make your space feel nourishing.
This doesn’t need to be elaborate - just intentional.
3. Drop into your body
Breathe. Touch yourself slowly. Let it be about sensation, not performance.
Let desire build. Be present with it.
4. Hold your intention as you build energy
Visualise it. Speak it aloud if that feels good.
Feel what it’s like to already have it.
Let your pleasure rise with that image in your mind.
5. At the peak - release
As you orgasm, let go. Say your intention.
Feel it ripple through your body.
Let your whole being receive it.
6. Integration
Rest. Journal. Cry. Dance. Whatever needs to move - let it.
Trust that something shifted, even if you can’t see it yet.
Optional: Place your written intention on an altar, carry it in your pocket, or sleep with it under your pillow.
Practicing Sex Magic With a Partner
Sex magic with a lover can be wildly powerful. You’re not just merging bodies -you’re merging energies, weaving intentions together, and calling something in as one.
Here’s a simple way to begin exploring sex magic with your partner:
1. Share your intention with each other
This builds trust, intimacy, and clarity.
What are you calling in - individually or together?
2. Set the space
Light a candle. Tidy the room. Set your phones aside.
Decide to make this time sacred.
3. Build slowly
Touch without agenda. Let desire lead.
Breathe together. Stay connected to your body and your intention.
4. Speak your intention out loud
This could be before, during, or right before orgasm.
Let it be simple: “I call in…” or “We open to…”
5. Let orgasm carry it
At the peak, hold your intention in your heart or speak it aloud again.
Let the energy rise and ripple through both of you.
6. Rest together
Hold each other. Cuddle. Nourish the afterglow.
And trust - something powerful just moved through you.
Sex magic isn’t something you need to master overnight.
It’s a practice. A remembering. A devotion.
To your desire.
To your power.
To your pleasure as a creative force.
This is erotic alchemy.
This is sex magic.
This is the art of choosing your life - with your body.
Podcast Recommendations
Sex Magic & The Power of the Moon
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Book Recommendations
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“You see, some women want to find a good man to love. Cock to a woman like this is always part of her man, the man who she loves, the man who she opens to God with. They want to open and take cock. It’s their way of opening to the Great One, of surrendering open and taking the Great One so deep they are lost in worship, gone in the giving of themselves, gone in their love of cock - not of a man as a character, as a husband or boyfriend, but gone in the love of cock itself.” — David Deida
If this feels like a spark, I invite you to dive deeper. Everyday Tantra is my signature way to bring sacred presence and erotic alchemy into your daily life - helping you cultivate desire, embodiment, and connection beyond the bedroom.
Curious? Let’s explore together how to make pleasure, intention, and magic part of your everyday rhythm.
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